On Passion Struck, I am joined by psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber, who will guide us in unlocking the power of desire. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery, conquering fears, and creating a future filled with fulfillment. Charlotte is a renowned psychotherapist and the author of the captivating book, “Tell Me What You Want: A Therapist and Her Clients Explore Our 12 Deepest Desires.” So, let’s dive right in!
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The Power of Desire: How to Create a Fulfilling Life with Charlotte Fox Weber
In this episode of the Passion Struck podcast, John R. Miles invites psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber to explore the concept of desires and their impact on our lives. Charlotte shares her insights and experiences as a psychotherapist, shedding light on the tendency to postpone our desires and the consequences of feeling stuck.
Charlotte introduces the idea of psychological containers, comparing them to storage units where we leave our desires unfulfilled. She encourages listeners to start by asking themselves what they want from their current situation and suggests that exploring our frustrations can reveal hidden desires. Charlotte emphasizes the intimate connection between fear and desire, explaining that we often fear what we truly desire.
The conversation then focuses on Charlotte’s book, Tell Me What You Want, which examines twelve desires common to many people. She believes exploring these desires offers a framework for understanding and discussing our desires. Charlotte Fox Weber shares compelling stories from her therapy practice, including those of a terminally ill patient seeking emotional clarity before her death and a man longing to feel wanted by his partner.
By listening to Charlotte and John, you will be able to:
- Unravel the hidden value in understanding and accurately expressing your aspirations for a harmonious life.
- Realize the power of authenticity and emotional exposure during therapeutic interventions.
- Differentiate between the impacts of following routine life patterns versus making conscious daily decisions.
- Explore the inciting relationship between fear and desire in making life choices.
- Realize the necessity of recognizing your covert desires for personal growth.
- And much, much more!
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More From My Conversation With Charlotte Fox Weber About Her Book Tell Me What You Want
Discovering the depths of her own mind and what it meant to be herself, Charlotte Fox Weber first delved into the realm of desire at a young age. Her early years were marked by experiences that led her to question the dichotomy of what we show and what we hide. This curiosity formed the foundation for her lifelong exploration of human desires. Traumatic incidents in her childhood, such as undergoing heart surgery at the age of four and a half, left her with death anxiety.
Her curiosity about the human condition was ignited during these moments of vulnerability. This curiosity, coupled with a fascination for the honesty she envisioned psychotherapy offered, led her down a path of unraveling the complex labyrinth of human desires.
Living on Autopilot
Living on autopilot means that instead of consciously making decisions based on our experiences and feelings, we often let our subconscious guide us. We let our past dictate our present. However, as humans, we can switch off the autopilot mode and take control—making intentional choices that align with our current feelings and values.
Throughout the conversation, Charlotte Fox Weber mentioned the propensity of individuals to put off their desires for a more convenient future time unknowingly. When they find themselves stuck, they likely find comfort in autopilot mode. The discussion drew a parallel between a hypothetical storage unit of unattended desires and living on autopilot. Charlotte emphasized the need to make conscious choices in order to escape the rut of living on autopilot.
The Storage Facility of Unlived Lives
When life’s expectations and obligations overwhelm us, it’s easy to lose touch with our passions and dreams—thrusting them into the mental storage unit of unlived lives. However, repeatedly avoiding our desires can leave us feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied. We must first recognize and acknowledge these pent-up desires to break the cycle.
Charlotte Fox Weber tapped into this concept, highlighting the connection between fear and desire, revealing how often we fear what we want. She suggested that our unfulfilled desires often serve as a metaphorical storage unit of unlived lives. Her stories from therapy underscored these insights, where many individuals confessed their regret for not having fulfilled certain desires earlier.
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- Website: https://examinedlife.co.uk/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlottefoxweberpsychotherapy/
- Examined Life Therapy: https://www.instagram.com/examinedlifetherapy/
- Get a copy of Charlotte Fox Weber’s book, Tell Me What You Want, where she delves into twelve universal wants and desires, providing a practical guide for understanding and articulating your desires to live well.
- “The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul” by Danielle LaPorte
- Discover Your Desires: Unleash Your Full Potential” by Mindvalley: This online course guides participants through a journey of self-discovery to identify and understand their deepest desires. It provides practical tools and exercises to help individuals unleash their full potential and live a more fulfilling life.
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About Today’s Guest, Charlotte Fox Weber
Today, we introduce Charlotte Fox Weber, a psychotherapist with a unique understanding of individuals’ deepest desires. Her extensive training allows her to delve deep into the human psyche, making her an expert in self-discovery and personal growth. Alongside her therapeutic work, she co-founded Examined Life and headed the School of Life Psychotherapy, which offers tailor-made therapy sessions to individuals. Charlotte has penned the book, What You Truly Want, offering a guide in understanding and articulating our desires, helping individuals lead more enriched and fulfilled lives.
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