Today on Passion Struck, I interview family therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett, who reveal the honest truth about why it’s so hard to find love and the keys to creating a lasting relationship. We discuss their new book: It’s Not Me, It’s You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better.
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John Kim and Vanessa Bennett examine their own relationships in order to assist listeners in overcoming the frequent and annoying obstacles that stand in the way of fulfilling, happy and satisfying relationships.
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In This Episode, John Kim and Vanessa Bennett Discuss their new Book It’s Not Met, It’s You and the Keys to Finding Love that Lasts.
After years of failed relationships, John and Vanessa have learned some hard lessons about love. In this candid interview, they share the secrets to finding love that has helped them in the past and can help you too. Don’t despair; love is out there. John and Vanessa share their insights about love and how to find it. They provide tips and advice on how to break free and find intentional love. Implementing these tips may not be easy, but it may just be the key to a successful relationship future! Learn about the challenges and triumphs of their love stories, and discover how you can overcome your own personal obstacles to a happy and fulfilling relationship.
If you’re feeling trapped in a relationship, it can be difficult to open up and explore new options. This episode provides advice from John Kim and Vanessa Bennett, who have experience working with clients who are struggling to break free from a relationship box.
We cover a range of subjects, such as:
- How to build proactive, long-lasting relationships.
- The obstacles that stand in the way of relationship development and upkeep.
- The steps couples can take individually and jointly to overcome relationship hurdles.
- Why roots don’t sprout from wishful thinking; they grow in the soil of dialogue, inquiry, patience, and understanding.
- The surprising truth is that falling in love is more about you than your partner.
- The key questions to ask your partner before moving in together or getting married.
- Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share? Drop us a line at [email protected]m!
- And much more…
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More From My Interview With John Kim and Vanessa on how to find Love that Lasts
During our interview, I was John Kim and Vanessa Bennett about what creates a healthy, lasting relationship.
John explains, “I think first, and this is what many people eyes or don’t realize, because we put so much weight on chemistry and attraction, right? And then that tends to lead us towards decisions. There has to be a foundation of soil meaning people have to have the ability to create a safe space. As they say, people have to have the ability to look inward to take ownership, right?
If you don’t have people doing this, the relationship can be very surfacey but also very finger-pointing and blaming. Those turn into patterns, and then eventually, over time, the plane goes down. Yeah, so without that safe foundation without the ability to take care of your own shit and have hard conversations. I don’t think you can build a relationship.
Vanessa continues, “Yes, safety, and I think all that is safety, right? It’s like one has to feel safe to express things to be heard to fight because you’re going to fight then on top of that. Obviously, the communication skills to even fight, which we’re not usually taught most of us don’t come out of our household growing up knowing how to fight. Some do but very few fairly. And so safety and communication, I think, go hand in hand.”
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Vanessa’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vanessabennettcoaching/
Vanessa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/
My solo episode on what it means to be a person of courage: https://passionstruck.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-person-of-courage/
My interview with Seth Godin on why we need systems to change to save the planet and address climate change: https://passionstruck.com/seth-godin-we-need-systems-change-save-planet/.
My interview with Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman and Dr. Jordan Feingold on Choosing Growth and transcending self-doubt, fear, and anxiety: https://passionstruck.com/jordyn-feingold-scott-barry-kaufman-chose-growth/
My interview with NYU Stern School of Business Professor Scott Galloway on Why America is Adrift: https://passionstruck.com/scott-galloway-america-is-adrift/
My solo episode on why micro choices matter: https://passionstruck.com/why-your-micro-choices-determine-your-life/
About Today’s Guests, John Kim and Vanessa Bennett
John Kim is a licensed therapist, life coach, Best Selling Author, and host of the Angry Therapist’s Podcast. John Kim, LMFT, is also known as The Angry Therapist — a published writer, speaker, life coach, and co-founder of The TAT Lab and Lumia–Life Coach Training and Community. John Kim is the author of best sellers I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck and Single. On Purpose.
Vanessa Bennett is a holistic psychotherapist as well as a codependency expert. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy podcast.
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